Thursday, March 5, 2009

No More Turning Back

Looking at her balanced delicately before the laptop on the dining table, I expressed a mischievously delightful chuckle within. What convinced her to settle down with me in the first place? Is there something she sees that is hidden from me? These are some of the questions that have been invading my mind recently. A recent phone call from a lady, an old schoolmate living on another continent, seeking to re-establish our long-lost friendship may be the reason for the self-induced questionnaire. As much as I have tried to chat with her, my heart is persuading me to cut the ties. I guess I have moved on and as they say sleeping dogs should be left to lie.
I am surely not cut in the mold of prince charming( PC). In fact I consider myself as the very antithesis of whoever and whatever PC is supposed to be in the real world. Can a man really grasp the concept of womanhood? Can a woman ever truly grasp what makes a real man to tick? Are the expectations of the genders a true reflection of reality, or are they just part of a life-long game of adventures which were never meant to be comprehended in the first place?

Most women, I am told start dreaming of prince charming from as early as their third year of birth. The handsome, intelligent and wealthy alpha male with a knack for creating loads of humour, joy and bliss is the dream man for most daughters of eve. I am still struggling to create a balcony of harmony in my own life, in my family so I don't understand what is going on.

Whatever is supposed to be the perfect and ultimate solution of the puzzle of love, there is one thing I think I am awakening to. And that is: I now really know that I am in love with my wife.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Aaaaawwwww.........

penpowder said...

That, my brother, is the spirit.

Here, There, Elsewhere... and more said...

I'd like to share these two great quotes on the subject...
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years"
~Simone Signoret
"The heart of marriage is memories; and if the two of you happen to have the same ones and can savor your reruns, then your marriage is a gift from the gods." Bill Cosby

posekyere said...

Anon,
Your aaaaaawwwwww really says it all.

posekyere said...

Thanks penpowder,
Man has got to say what has got say.
I have made my choice. Finish and clear.

posekyere said...

@ Here,There, Elsewhere...
Beautiful!
I am sticking with my choice.Period!

Pen Powder said...

Stick to your choice, Im doing the same.

posekyere said...

Thanks again Pen Powder,

That is the name of the game.
I take my time to carefully make a decision and once my mind is made up I hold on to the end.
I am glad you are also of the same school of thought and practice.
Bless you pal!

Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

For someone fed up with a state of abeyance over whether I should get married or not, I do so envy you. I see so many gorgeous girls; but ams o happy with my equally-gorgeous girlfriend. Want to have a ring on my finger--with all the commitments that come with it...

Did I say I envy you?p;-)

posekyere said...

Gee Emmanuel,
If what you write here is the true state of your heart, then I may as well announce to your girlfriend that it is time for her to get ready for the wedding bells.
Seriously though, there will always be the gorgeous girls around but I guess one needs to settle down someday and that means a choice must be made.
Once the choice is made, then the decent principle is: keep on keeping on with the one you have and cut loose all the floating attachments.
Like all guys, I also had apprehension about the 'commitment bug' but you get through it eventually someway somehow.
When your heart tells you that it's time to do the leap of faith, just do it and you won't regret it.

Anonymous said...

I could call you PK, cout I?

posekyere said...

My Dear Anon,
You certainly cannot call me 'PK' because I have no idea what your 'PK' stands for.
Thanks for visiting my blog and I hope to see you again and again.

Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

Thanks, posekyere, if only she knew!:-) I think I like your answer--now to test it to the parents!;-))

posekyere said...

This is one thing I will bet the last pesewa on: she is way ahead of you as far as the knowing game is concerned, the ladies have always had a better intuition than us guys.
They generally can read the soul of a man who is in love, but of course clever as they are, they make it appear as if they had no clue of anything coming.
Also the parents may actually be praying for you to come and 'knock' if they have seen you and they like you. Who doesn't want a charming son-in-law to marry their daughter? Normally the Mom is the reader of the man. Mom-in-laws can analyse a man from afar. If you are able to get her vote, the dad will easily follow.
It shall be fine.
Take courage and go in the confidence of humility.

Adaeze said...

I have to copy someone here;¨
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!
I don't believe there is such a thing as a general PC except for in the Disney movies...
But I am sure you are just that to your wife. I haven't found the solution of the puzzle of love either, but I believe we all have our flaws, what makes the connection between two people special is when they truly see each other, and as you hinted, maybe even seeing things about the other person that he/she cannot see themselves, and loves them for all of it. PC or not, I have a hunch she must be lucky to have you Posyekere :) As the others say, stick to your choice and may your union continue to stay blessed.